Fix cmake error after upgrading to Arrow 9 (#11513)

After upgrading to Arrow 9 (#11507), some systems experience a cmake issue:
```
cudf/cpp/build/_deps/arrow-src/cpp/CMakeLists.txt:864: error: The dependency target "xsimd" of target "arrow_dependencies" does not exist.
```

This may be due to the configurations for Arrow is looking for a local installation of `xsimd`, which does not exist or the installation path is not provided.

This PRs adds an option to cudf cmake, specifying that Arrow should handle `xsimd` by itself.

Authors:
  - Nghia Truong (https://github.com/ttnghia)

Approvers:
  - Bradley Dice (https://github.com/bdice)
  - Robert Maynard (https://github.com/robertmaynard)

URL: #11513

cpp/cmake/thirdparty/get_arrow.cmake

@@ -121,6 +121,7 @@ function(find_and_configure_arrow VERSION BUILD_STATIC ENABLE_S3 ENABLE_ORC ENAB
             "ARROW_GRPC_USE_SHARED ${ARROW_BUILD_SHARED}"
             "ARROW_PROTOBUF_USE_SHARED ${ARROW_BUILD_SHARED}"
             "ARROW_ZSTD_USE_SHARED ${ARROW_BUILD_SHARED}"
+            "xsimd_SOURCE AUTO"
   )
 
   set(ARROW_FOUND TRUE)