Concurrent small allocation defeats large allocation

With the new parallel allocators scheme, there is a possibility for
a problem where two threads, allocating from the same allocator at
the same time, conflict with each other. There are two primary cases
to worry about. First, another thread working on another allocator
activates the same metaslab that the first thread was trying to
activate. This results in the first thread needing to go back and
reselect a new metaslab, even though it may have waited a long time
for this metaslab to load. Second, another thread working on the same
allocator may have activated a different metaslab while the first
thread was waiting for its metaslab to load. Both of these cases
can cause the first thread to be significantly delayed in issuing
its IOs. The second case can also cause metaslab load/unload churn;
because the metaslab is loaded but not fully activated, we never set
the selected_txg, which results in the metaslab being immediately
unloaded again. This process can repeat many times, wasting disk and
cpu resources. This is more likely to happen when the IO of the first
thread is a larger one (like a ZIL write) and the other thread is
doing a smaller write, because it is more likely to find an
acceptable metaslab quickly.

There are two primary changes. The first is to always proceed with
the allocation when returning from metaslab_activate if we were
preempted in either of the ways described in the previous section.
The second change is to set the selected_txg before we do the call
to activate so that even if the metaslab is not used for an
allocation, we won't immediately attempt to unload it.

Reviewed by: Jerry Jelinek <[email protected]>
Reviewed by: Matt Ahrens <[email protected]>
Reviewed by: Serapheim Dimitropoulos <[email protected]>
Reviewed by: Brian Behlendorf <[email protected]>
Signed-off-by: Paul Dagnelie <[email protected]>
External-issue: DLPX-61314
Closes openzfs#8843