[bugfix] Fix occasionally streaming empty messages

[tsmethurst]

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Jiggle websocket logic to make sure we're only sending a message down the wire if we actually have one to send. Previously we were sending empty messages immediately after pings.

This might be what was causing issues with ice cubes client but I'm not entirely sure yet.

closes #3455

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