[FEA][JNI] Throw a specific java exception for OOM

[abellina]

Currently we catch rmm::out_of_memory here: https://github.com/rapidsai/cudf/blob/branch-22.12/java/src/main/native/include/jni_utils.hpp#L853, and then we throw java.lang.OutOfMemoryError.

The problem is that this exception type is normally used for the Java heap (but we are using for GPU memory as well), as pointed out by @gerashegalov here: NVIDIA/spark-rapids#6810 (comment).

We'd like to fix this by throwing a cuDF-JNI specific exception for GPU OOM (e.g. RapidsGpuOutOfMemory), and likely adding other exceptions for HOST. We would like to include the amount of memory that we attempted to allocate (ideally from the RMM exception rapidsai/rmm#1134), but we may have enough info in cuDF to work around it.

The issue would also try/catch java.lang.OutOfMemory as thrown by UNSAFE.allocateMemory here: https://github.com/rapidsai/cudf/blob/branch-22.12/java/src/main/java/ai/rapids/cudf/UnsafeMemoryAccessor.java#L79, and instead throw something like RapidsHostOutOfMemory.

[abellina]

We are going to be rethinking the exceptions and exception handling as part of NVIDIA/spark-rapids#7252, so we'll close this issue and open new ones if needed.