owner(ticdc): correctly handle the state after the old owner is upgraded to the new owner

[Rustin170506]

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What problem does this PR solve?

part of #3473

What is changed and how it works?

correctly handle the state after the old owner is upgraded to the new owner.
Fix it in changefeed manager tick.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Manual test (TBD)

Code changes

• Has exported function/method change

Side effects

None

Related changes

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Release note

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Fix the problem of changefeed resuming automatically after upgrading cluster

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Codecov Report

Merging #3839 (ab4eb50) into release-4.0 (753073a) will increase coverage by 3.3269%.
The diff coverage is 67.0512%.

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[Rustin170506]

See: https://github.com/pingcap/ticdc/pull/3861