fix: adopt dns result order changes VSCODE-458

[alenakhineika]

Description

Adopt dns result order changes with Node v18 and vscode 1.82.0-insider update to resolve:

stack trace: Error: Request ACTIVE_CONNECTION_CHANGED failed with message: connect ECONNREFUSED ::1:27018
	at handleResponse (/Users/alena.khineika/www/vscode/node_modules/vscode-jsonrpc/lib/common/connection.js:565:48)
	at handleMessage (/Users/alena.khineika/www/vscode/node_modules/vscode-jsonrpc/lib/common/connection.js:345:13)
	at processMessageQueue (/Users/alena.khineika/www/vscode/node_modules/vscode-jsonrpc/lib/common/connection.js:362:17)
	at Immediate.<anonymous> (/Users/alena.khineika/www/vscode/node_modules/vscode-jsonrpc/lib/common/connection.js:334:13)
	at process.processImmediate (node:internal/timers:476:21)

The vscode provides a fix for the extension host, but we also need to add this for LS and workers.

Checklist

• New tests and/or benchmarks are included
• Documentation is changed or added
• I have signed the MongoDB Contributor License Agreement (https://www.mongodb.com/legal/contributor-agreement)

Motivation and Context

• Bugfix
• New feature
• Dependency update
• Misc

Dependents

Related tp: microsoft/vscode#189805

Types of changes

• Backport Needed
• Patch (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• Minor (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Major (fix or feature that would cause existing functionality to change)