bazel: upgrade rules_go to v0.43

[rickystewart]

Also update core dependencies that must be updated for the new rules_go version.

Informs #99988

Epic: none
Release note: None

[cockroach-teamcity]

This change is 

[rickystewart]

TFTRs!

bors r=rail,dt

[craig]

Build failed (retrying...):

• Bazel Essential CI (Cockroach)

[craig]

Build failed:

• Bazel Essential CI (Cockroach)

[rickystewart]

bors r=rail,dt

[craig]

Build succeeded:

• Bazel Essential CI (Cockroach)

[rickystewart]

blathers backport 23.2

[blathers-crl]

Encountered an error creating backports. Some common things that can go wrong:

1. The backport branch might have already existed.
2. There was a merge conflict.
3. The backport branch contained merge commits.

You might need to create your backport manually using the backport tool.

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error creating merge commit from 5f720e9 to blathers/backport-release-23.2-116283: POST https://api.github.com/repos/cockroachdb/cockroach/merges: 409 Merge conflict []

you may need to manually resolve merge conflicts with the backport tool.

Backport to branch 23.2 failed. See errors above.

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