release-23.1: sql: use datum alloc for crdb_internal stmt stats rows

[blathers-crl]

Backport 1/1 commits from #105093 on behalf of @dt.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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Happened to observe a cluster running a customer test suite which included a query that inspected stmt stats often, causing the CRDB node to spend a considerable amount of CPU time in production of the stmt stats vtable, in particular allocating (and then GC'ing) individual datums, especially given how wide this table has become with the addition of storage stats.

This change uses a datum allocator to produce those rows to reduce the number of separate allocations from the runtime.

Release note: none.
Epic: none.

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Release justification: low risk performance improvement

[blathers-crl]

Thanks for opening a backport.

Please check the backport criteria before merging:

• Patches should only be created for serious issues or test-only changes.
• Patches should not break backwards-compatibility.
• Patches should change as little code as possible.
• Patches should not change on-disk formats or node communication protocols.
• Patches should not add new functionality.
• Patches must not add, edit, or otherwise modify cluster versions; or add version gates.

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• There is a high priority need for the functionality that cannot wait until the next release and is difficult to address in another way.
• The new functionality is additive-only and only runs for clusters which have specifically “opted in” to it (e.g. by a cluster setting).
• New code is protected by a conditional check that is trivial to verify and ensures that it only runs for opt-in clusters.
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• Will this work in a cluster of mixed patch versions? Did we test that?
• If a user upgrades a patch version, uses this feature, and then downgrades, what happens?

[blathers-crl]

It looks like your PR touches production code but doesn't add or edit any test code. Did you consider adding tests to your PR?

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