feat(useExhaustiveDependencies): add option to disable errors for unecessary dependencies

[simon-paris]

Closes #630

Summary

This adds an option to suppress errors for dependencies that are in the dependencies array but not used in the hook function.

The option schema is below. It could also have the new field inside the hooks array but I think you'd generally want to use this for every hook type.

// this config
"useExhaustiveDependencies": {
  "reportUnnecessaryDependencies": false,
  "hooks": [...] // unchanged
}

// allows this
function ReportUnecessaryDependencies() {
    const [a] = useState("hello")
    const [b] = useState("world");
    useEffect(() => {
        console.log(a); // <- prints when b changes, but does not use b
    }, [a, b]);
    return a;
}

Additionally, the options struct for this rule was originally designed to be reused, but at some point it was removed from useHookAtTopLevel here, now it's not actually reused anywhere. Since this PR adds an option field specific to this rule, I've renamed the options struct to indicate that it's non-reusable.

Test Plan

A unit test is included

[codspeed-hq]

CodSpeed Performance Report

Merging #4135 will not alter performance

_{Comparing simon-paris:feat/use-exhaustive-dependencies-disable-report-unused (d02c9ef) with main (a6ea07e)}

Summary

✅ 105 untouched benchmarks

[arendjr]

Nice work! Just need to fix the defaults a bit.

[simon-paris]

@arendjr Thanks, all fixed

[arendjr]

Just realized we forgot a CHANGELOG entry. Feel free to add it in the next PR or do a separate one.