[fix](memory) Fix jemalloc hook deadlock at BE start (#44009)

It should be caused by the third-party library, but in any case, this
fix should be possible.

```
#0  0x00007f738432318c in __lll_lock_wait_private () from /lib64/libc.so.6
#1  0x00007f73843505ed in __internal_atexit () from /lib64/libc.so.6
#2  0x0000563f6a54db30 in malloc ()
#3  0x0000563f74e82b08 in operator new(unsigned long) ()
#4  0x0000563f6a6144bd in doris::ThreadContextPtr::ThreadContextPtr() ()
#5  0x0000563f6a54e21c in doris_calloc ()
#6  0x00007f7384350557 in __new_exitfn () from /lib64/libc.so.6
#7  0x00007f73843505fc in __internal_atexit () from /lib64/libc.so.6
#8  0x0000563f72c79c03 in ?? ()
#9  0x0000563f74e3b5fd in __libc_csu_init ()
#10 0x00007f7384339d18 in __libc_start_main () from /lib64/libc.so.6
#11 0x0000563f69ae302a in _start ()
```

be/src/common/daemon.cpp

@@ -409,6 +409,7 @@ static void init_doris_metrics(const std::vector<StorePath>& store_paths) {
 void signal_handler(int signal) {
     if (signal == SIGINT || signal == SIGTERM) {
         k_doris_exit = true;
+        k_doris_start = false;
         LOG(INFO) << "doris start to exit";
     }
 }

be/src/common/daemon.h

@@ -27,6 +27,7 @@ namespace doris {
 
 struct StorePath;
 inline bool k_doris_exit = false;
+inline bool k_doris_start = false;
 
 class Daemon {
 public:

be/src/runtime/thread_context.h

@@ -100,6 +100,7 @@ class MemTracker;
 class RuntimeState;
 
 extern bool k_doris_exit;
+extern bool k_doris_start;
 extern bthread_key_t btls_key;
 
 // Using gcc11 compiles thread_local variable on lower versions of GLIBC will report an error,
@@ -388,17 +389,17 @@ class AddThreadMemTrackerConsumer {
 // which is different from the previous behavior.
 #define CONSUME_MEM_TRACKER(size)                                                                  \
     do {                                                                                           \
-        if (doris::thread_context_ptr.init) {                                                      \
+        if (doris::k_doris_start && doris::thread_context_ptr.init) {                              \
             doris::thread_context()->consume_memory(size);                                         \
-        } else if (doris::ExecEnv::GetInstance()->initialized()) {                                 \
+        } else if (doris::k_doris_start && doris::ExecEnv::GetInstance()->initialized()) {         \
             doris::ExecEnv::GetInstance()->orphan_mem_tracker_raw()->consume_no_update_peak(size); \
         }                                                                                          \
     } while (0)
 #define RELEASE_MEM_TRACKER(size)                                                            \
     do {                                                                                     \
-        if (doris::thread_context_ptr.init) {                                                \
+        if (doris::k_doris_start && doris::thread_context_ptr.init) {                        \
             doris::thread_context()->consume_memory(-size);                                  \
-        } else if (doris::ExecEnv::GetInstance()->initialized()) {                           \
+        } else if (doris::k_doris_start && doris::ExecEnv::GetInstance()->initialized()) {   \
             doris::ExecEnv::GetInstance()->orphan_mem_tracker_raw()->consume_no_update_peak( \
                     -size);                                                                  \
         }                                                                                    \

be/src/service/doris_main.cpp

@@ -82,6 +82,7 @@ int __llvm_profile_write_file();
 
 namespace doris {
 extern bool k_doris_exit;
+extern bool k_doris_start;
 
 static void thrift_output(const char* x) {
     LOG(WARNING) << "thrift internal message: " << x;
@@ -463,6 +464,7 @@ int main(int argc, char** argv) {
 
     // init exec env
     auto exec_env = doris::ExecEnv::GetInstance();
+    doris::k_doris_start = true;
     doris::ExecEnv::init(exec_env, paths);
     doris::TabletSchemaCache::create_global_schema_cache();