Update create-tarball.sh and verify_release.sh script to skip object_store

[alamb]

Draft as I am not sure this is what we want to be doing here -- see #2338 for discussion

Re #2382

Which issue does this PR close?

Closes #2338

Rationale for this change

object_store is going to be released separately from arrow / parquet / arrow_flight / parquet_derive so it should not be in the tarballs

What changes are included in this PR?

change to release scripts

Are there any user-facing changes?

no

[tustvold]

Is this waiting for something?

[alamb]

Sorry -- it is waiting for me to test it (manually) -- namely I want to test the entire cycle of "create a tarball" and then "run the verification script" -- I was thinking I would do that in connection with the #2382 release

[alamb]

This PR is basically the same as @tustvold approved, the only thing I changed was to restore the commented out lines in 1ba0355

[ursabot]

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