Add fix for potential hydration mismatch errors

[cmdcolin]

This re-wires aborting through the system which fixes #4674

I'm not particularly happy that aborting is required to fix this error, i think aborting should be an optional add on, but it does sort of makes sense that aborting fixes it because it prevents 'old' results from being hydrated with 'new props' which may be possible, which is otherwise actually very hard to avoid with the way that our hydration works (because both the hydrateRoot and the hydrateRoot.unmount have to be asynchronously done, and adding a check would require serializing all the props and checking that they are the same...or somthing like this, sort of guessing)

So, anyways, aborting allows the old results to be shot down before trying to appear in the UI

fixes #4674