feat!: allow to run Babel on non js/ts extensions

[ArnaudBarre]

• Superseed feat!: allow to run Babel on non js/ts extensions (fixes #38) #53
• Fixes Need a way to transform other plugin(such as mdx)'s output. #38
• Fixes @vitejs/plugin-react can support more extensions  #22
• Fixes @vitejs/plugin-react processing excluded files #24
• Fixes Plugin-React: Allow user provided babel plugins to be applied to non-project files  #16
• Fixes Fast Refresh not working with automatic runtime and file extension without "x" #83

API changes:

• Make include/exclude work like other plugins. This allows to make it work with mdx plugin. Also I think that all the query params thing was to workaround this limitation (and probably also inspire by how Vue SFC works) and I don't think it makes sense for the React plugin now that you can explicitly include more extensions.
• Don't change the behaviour when the import is outside of Vite root. This is blocking a lot of monorepo setup.
• Don't process node_modules files. TS in node_modules is still supported thanks to esbuild. It would be really strange to require a custom babel transform to load a node_modules file.
• Drop fastRefresh: I don't see any reason for this flag. This is 80% of the goal of this plugin now that esbuild handles all jsx transformation. If there are other cases where it needs to be disabled (like ssr, prod currently), this should be detected by the plugin.

[ArnaudBarre]

I think in the next PR I will remove the "pre" for the transform part (but keep it for the resolve refresh runtime). WDY @patak-dev?