[Enhancement] Improve query queue pending timeout error message

[wyb]

Why I'm doing:

What I'm doing:

mysql> insert into t properties("timeout"="1") select $1 from files("path"="xxx", "format" = "csv", "csv.column_separator" = "|");
ERROR 1064 (HY000): Failed to allocate resource to query: pending timeout [1s], you could modify query/insert timeout to pending more time

if insert/query timeout is smaller than query_queue_pending_timeout_second, use insert/query timeout in the error message.

Fixes https://github.com/StarRocks/StarRocksTest/issues/8908

What type of PR is this:

• BugFix
• Feature
• Enhancement
• Refactor
• UT
• Doc
• Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

• Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
• No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

• Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
• Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
• Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
• Feature removed
• Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

• I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
• This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
  • I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
• This is a backport pr

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• I have checked the version labels which the pr will be auto-backported to the target branch
  • 3.4
  • 3.3
  • 3.2
  • 3.1
  • 3.0

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